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That mash potato Rouying Rou means gentle, Ying means intelligent.That is why I am so cool Love me not, it's your choice, your decision. 15 going sweet 16 on 13 September. A pretty much typical virgo. ♥11V15. ///Polaroids/Photos/Cameras/Lollipop/Necklace/Polar Bears/YOU/// Follow me on Twitter, Stalk me on Facebook and chat me on MSN Once a Loyalty-ian, forever a Loyalty-ian<3 |
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No, I don't want to lend you.
Saturday, October 23, 2010 HAHAHA, as we all know, we are humans, and we are very afraid of how people think of us, and their impression on us. Thus, we will try to please one's request even though we are so unwilling. And one very likely case is that, when people ask you for something, even though you do not wish to lend, you will still do so, cos of many reasons, like afraid that people might say that you are selfish etc. On the other hand, lending your things to other people when you are not willing, people obviously do not know about it. When they knew about it, is when he or she heard someone talking behind their back. Like this person lend alrdy, felt very upset/unfair, and start to have misunderstandings about that person who came to ask for that item(obviously, not knowing that the person who lent was unwilling). So it becomes like a both side so wei qu, when it become an unhappiness between two sides. So yeah, here are some excuses to push things away. From bigger things to smaller things. Firstly,   MONEY. Yes MONEY$$$ I bet your eyes lit up when you see the word MONEY. Money is so important in our life, with money, we can buy things that we like, help the weaker, and ofc, look so awesome in front of people. So yeah, when it comes to money, things get complicated. For teenagers like us, when people come and lend money from us... We will be like... Should I? But she's my friend... HAHAH okay here it goes. reasons you can use. 1. My dad docked my allowance this month, I'm broke too, sorry. 2. My mum keeps tracks of my allowance, spendings and savings. Sorry. 3. Sorry, I just used it to buy my new(Phone, clothes, devices) etc. 4. I just paid for my school trip/section fund/class fund. 5. My mum just warned me not to lend people money, sorry about that. HAHAHAH. Ofc, I guess many of us still have other crazier, more ridiculous ideas! Next up,   expensive devices like iPad, iTouch, Handphone etc. Like obviously, your own thing, you want to play, why lend other people and you can't play. Reasons you can use. 1. Immediately switch off and say, I'm sorry but the battery is flat. 2. Oh no, there's something wrong with the buttons/sensor, I need to go fix it. 3. Huh, cannot got something private inside.  4. (If your friend dk it's yours) Uhh no, it's not mine, i lend from some other friend de, don't think can lend you. Third, NOTES.   Yes study notes hahah!! You know students nowadays are so mug because of this materialistic world, and thus, results are so important, and we go to the extend of buying notes from internet/people. So yeah, we don't wish to share our notes. Like seriously, why must I share my marks with you? So here! 1. Copyright infringement if you bought it online, that will totally shut your friends up. 2. Oh sorry, I cant use the comp now, cannot send. 3. If bought online, said your mum/dad don't allow you to lend cos you bought it with $$(and you know, money is so great, that is provided, you are not rich.) If you friend want to lend and photocopy from you the next day. 4. Say you forget to bring 5. Say you lost it too, and you are freakin sad about that. (obviously, it is at home.) Sidenote: The smartest thing is, don't take your notes out and flaunt from the start or lend it to ONE person. Cos the whole world will know. If you dont lend to anyone, even people know you have, you have reasons to not lend, and no one will say you are bias or selfish (: And the last one, PEN, PENCILS, STATIONARIES.   It's not that we don't want to lend, but some people, borrow alrdy, never return, or spoil the pen. So in order to protect it, you have to choice, but to lie about it. 1. I only have one pen. 2. No ink alrdy. 3. I lending it to someone else. 4. My passed away grandfather give de, me myself don't use(obviously fake. who ever fall for it, is really.... LOL) 5. Fake pen. A sum up. The best way to push away for teenager is usually.... YOU JUST PUSH IT TO YOUR PARENTS. Cos they are like so great, and your friends wouldn't go to the extend of asking your parents to verify. And you can always dare them:"Oh I'm really sorry, why not you ask my mum whether can anot? Cos she told me to not lend to anyone." And actually my whole point is that if you don't feel like lending to a particular person, you shouldn't have lend it to anyone from the start. We are really humans, ofc we hope that people will try their best to fulfil our request, so when you decided to lend a person, you should be prepared more people will come and lend from you. And if you really don't wish to, you should just reject. (In a nicer way ofc, if you really can't say it, when the person asked thru sms, just don't reply. That person gets the drift.) Because when the person found out you actually don't wish to, and knew that you are so unhappy about it, and it turned to become like a hatred and starts ganging up with friends to gossip and speak bad about the person, he or she, will feel so hurt, cos he or she really thought you wouldn't mind. And it really doesn't make sense when you decided to lend, why are you so unhappy, and couldn't let go off it. As in, it is YOUR choice to lend YOUR thing(s) to that person, if you dowan, that person can don't like/unhappy, but he or she wouldn't take a gun and point it at ur brain(Becos we are young and innocent teenagers). And when you decided to lend, and yet can't let go off it, you will start to be prejudice/bias against that person and talk back about the person which is something very common like:"She's a bitch, thick skin, come lend things from me, when she knew i dun like it." But how would he or she know about it when you gracefully agreed to lending? I know it is hard to like reject people sometimes, when it might make things even worse, like that person go spread things like you are selfish etc. But if you don't lend it to ANYONE, who will say it's because you are selfish. And ofc, when you don't lend, you must really give a very convincing reason. If you are just afraid of ruining your relationship with that friend, that fear not, if he or she is angry over you cos you don't lend him or her thing, that person is certainly not the friend you would like to have. It becomes a "Making use of each other friendship." one day if you no longer have the making use value, that person will just kick you away and forget about you. So just reject it, before more complications arise. But personally I think, if that person is a friend you would like to have, or it's within what you can do, why not just help? You may be the one who did that person a favour today, who knows? next time you may need a favour from that person. We will never know. Why not keep our options open and when we need help, people will gladly help us, without hesitant, like how you helped the person before. It's always hard to speak up, but the person who decided to speak up, has the final victory. A favour to others today may be insignificant to you, but one day, when you receive a favour from the others, you will know how it feels--touched and overwhelmed with love. A favour today may be a token for help in the future. What you have done now, may be the key of breaking the walls between people. It doesn't hurt to help or lend, but it hurt those who could not get help. All "helps" are the same, but the difference lies between whether it is willing, or unwilling. Whether or not to help, it all lies whether we want to. ~~~Rouying Sorry if this post is boring or wordy, but yeah, I really thank you if you read from the top to the end. (: And yah, after posting this, if i gave you similar reasons, you know it is obviously cos i dowan to lend you! 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